Happiness. A private or public affair?
It’s individual and exclusive to you
8 May 2019
Is our personal happiness a private or public affair? Should you shout your cries of joy from the rooftop for the world to hear or are those feelings supposed to be too personal to share? What about a tweet or social media update to let your circle know how you’re feeling? Or are these things best left unsaid?
In all honesty, there’s no straightforward answer. It’s your happiness - it’s up to you what you do with it. The beauty of happiness is that there’s no set rule for all. No two places, events or activities will incur the same feelings for two people. But we’ve all felt happiness and know that nothing compares to the feeling. So what’s wrong with sharing or, alternatively, keeping things private?
Your happiness is personal; it’s individual and exclusive to you. It’s based on you and your mind, which won’t tick in the same way that your manager’s or best friend’s does. Happiness itself evokes feelings of joy, contentment, solitude and reflection. In a world full of bumps and whirlwinds, it’s important to take time out to contemplate and meditate on the joys and peace certain things bring to your life.
Keeping your happiness private can also, in a way, give your relationships further meaning; bonds can sometimes become more intimate, exclusive and stronger through privateness. Afterall, the saying “don’t air your dirty laundry in public” didn’t appear from nowhere! Confidentiality on certain aspects of life and relationships can help retain a sense of identity and character, as not all is then exposed for the world to see. Your happiness depends much more on your attitude and mindset than it does on external circumstances and, sometimes, the preciousness of life’s moments are best savoured alone.
On the other hand, as human beings, we are social creatures. We love to talk, communicate, socialize and express our views and opinions. Individually, we love to be happy, but also on a larger scale, as a society. Life incorporates aspects of both private and public spheres; the same is true for our happiness. Only collectively can we truly experience happiness. It is shaped by positive, mutually beneficial and complimentary connections we have with those around us. In the hyper connected world we live in today, where aspects of our lives are fully integrated and interdependent with others, this couldn’t be more true.
In Dubai, happiness is at the top of the agenda. It’s a primary goal of the city and can only really be reached through the collective efforts of all citizens. Of course, personal happiness is equally important but it should contribute to harmonizing and developing society so that, collectively, we can achieve happiness.
Ultimately, the principles of love, wisdom, self-reflection and progress are all attributes of both private and public happiness - let’s harmonize both to become the happiest city on Earth!